Hello, here is something true:
Feeling bad about your weight does not help you lose weight.
Letting go of my anger with my weight has been a massive self-fight on several occasions because it felt like doing so would mean giving up any chance at losing weight. (I'm assuming right now that this theoretical "you" is above her set weight, as I was. Thank you, freshman twenty.)
Actually, it is much, much harder to to lose weight if you feel guilty or angry with yourself about your current weight.
It is much, much harder to make positive change of any kind in your life if you are harsh with yourself.
You have to achieve a modicum of self-acceptance before you can successfully change what makes you unhappy.
Does it sound counterintuitive? Well, it's true.
Confidence and positive motivation are prequisites for making changes in your life. Escaping being beaten up by yourself is not positive motivation.
If you don't have good energy in your system, and belief in your ability to effect change, you will not be able to achieve what you want. You will probably self-sabotage, go through cycles of extremes, and ultimately be too low on energy from beating yourself up.
Before you attempt to make a change in your life, see if you are able to say this to yourself first:
I am okay with how I am. I am not perfect, but I am acceptable to myself. I am doing the best I know, and I am learning how to do better. Just as I am in part responsible for the presence of things I don't like in my life, I have the ability to get rid of them and replace them with better things.Am I making sense?