You / I

"do you remember the way the girls
would call out 'love you!'
conveniently leaving out the 'I'
as if they didn’t want to commit
to their own declarations."

– David Berman (via)

My thoughts as I read this:

1. I do that.

2. It does feel more comfortable and less meaningful.

3. Resolved: no longer. Subject pronouns or bust. Let words have weight; I love you.

12 comments:

Elizabeth 12/13/2011 4:09 PM  

I need to do the whole phrase. from start to end. I will not do it in writing, I will do it in person. I will man up and say it.

Q 12/13/2011 4:19 PM  

I love you!

Sarah Louise 12/13/2011 4:54 PM  

ich liebe dich! My dad and I end almost every conversation with "I love you."

(and I must find my Christmas ornament that has on one side the German and on the other the English words.)

sui 12/13/2011 7:18 PM  

I LOVE YOUUU

odessa 12/13/2011 8:43 PM  

大好きです (dai suki desu).

Q 12/13/2011 11:34 PM  

Also I've come to the conclusion that I do not like the rhetorical "you" because it's confusing. Use I, people.

Georgie K. Buttons 12/14/2011 12:37 AM  

Ack. Another thing to work on. :)

Noël De Vries 12/14/2011 6:28 AM  

which begs the question:

was the girl on the bus really such a loser for saying

I love youse

?

which begs the next question: did Tara Fink really make up the term literacist, or did it already exist?

(sigh. how can you read just one line from that page?) [[124, in case you need something to brighten your day.]]

Holly 12/14/2011 10:12 PM  

Elizabeth - Hey, women are hella strong...the strongest people I know. You got this, miss.

Q - <3 Marya Hornbacher's convinced me that it can be an effective choice...

SL - Do it! Liebe, liebe, den ganzen Weg nach Pittsburgh...ich schicke welche...

sui - also I love and admire how bold you are with that declaration as a rule.

odessa - :D You're exciting, and so dear.

Georgie - Well, but now we know what we mean and can choose to mean either, eh hey?

Noel - I really don't think she was a loser...I'm with Tara. Google is telling me, however, that "literacism" means something different...

12/15/2011 8:17 PM  

I never used to think it was a big deal whether or not you put the "I" in there, and then I realized I had never once said simply "love you" and thoroughly meant it; even if it was true, it was purely reflex. Not really thinking about the magnitude of it, you know?

12/15/2011 8:19 PM  

Oh, and Q- I find the rhetorical "you" enormously helpful for discussing things that are too painful to acknowledge that they are personal, even if they are. Although that may be a good reason not to use it, depending on your perspective.

Holly 12/16/2011 1:35 AM  

Fé - Yeah, I totally do know what you mean.

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